By Yoke-Yin Chong Purcaro
A six year old boy was shouting and running in the restaurant.
His father tried to calm him down, and told him that it is rude to shout
or run in a restaurant. However, the
boy still keeps acting the same way. Because
of his rudeness and naughtiness, he then got a good spanking from his father.
“I am going to sue you for abusing children,” the boy said to his
father. The boy then picked up the
phone and dialed 911. Within five
minutes, a policeman arrived. The father was
questioned for about an hour by the police.
Finally, the father was arrested for investigation of child abuse.
This incident makes me wonder if this is the right way to raise children.
How can a six year old boy be allowed
to sue his father because of the punishment that he received?
Why is it that some parents choose
not to discipline their children?
parents feel too tired after work, or
too upset by the daily struggles of life
to think straight about their children.
Maybe they think
that punishment will
hurt their children or lower their self-esteem.
Because of this unwillingness to hurt children, some parents would rather
keep silent than pointing out their children’s misbehavior.
A ten year old girl steals crayon at school.
After discovering that the girl has stolen the crayons, the teacher warns
her that this is not appropriate behavior. But she keeps doing the same thing.
Sometimes she steals her classmates’ pencils, lunch boxes, and even
sometimes rubber bands. The teacher
warns her over and over again, but it doesn’t work.
American schools never use corporal punishment with children.
Why has the school abolished corporal punishment? Is a child of ten too
young to control impulses? Some
people think that a
child of this age has no
concept of stealing as being wrong. And
they think it is normal to take things that they want. Someone has to figure out
how to stop children from being thieves. In
my opinion, using corporal punishment is the best way to deal with it.
Punishing children who steal by making them stand outside of the
classroom is not an abusive punishment. Raising
one’s voice to ask students to keep quiet during a lecture is not wrong.
To give another example of my point, a group of teens
gather on the street. They are between the ages of ten to fifteen.
They talk about sex, and the profanities appear in their conversations
constantly. The girls wear sexy clothing that are too revealing. Some
of them smoke and act like gang members. This is very common in today’s
society. Since the social problem of
teens is getting serious, society needs to figure out a solution to solve it.
The solution should not be just talking or counseling, but must include
some stern teaching – and the use of corporal punishment. Teaching
these kids by using corporal punishment is not abuse or violence!
Children have to be taught; they are not born with all the social skills
or the knowledge of rightn or wrong. Little
by little parents have to teach this to them.
Teaching children is not easy for some parents, and raising children is
even harder. Some parents might ask,
“What do I do when my children break the rules over and over again?” Many
parents notice that some children forget easily the mistakes they made.
Sometimes corporal punishment will help them learn not to make the same
Personally, I think children are over protected by the parents, the
government and the society. Federal
legislation passed in the 1970s required states to establish child-abuse
prevention and treatment programs, forced public schools to provide education to
disabled children and established new standards for foster care and child
protective services. As a foreigner,
I am surprised that children in